The ability to ask for help.
The notion of asking for help is nothing new. In fact…
Merriam Webster defines help as the following –
* to make more pleasant or bearable
* to give assistance or support to
* to change for the better
Also, in 1965 The Beatles released a song called “Help!” It goes a little something like, “…When I was younger, so much younger than today (I never needed) I never needed anybody’s help in any way (now)… But now these days are gone, I’m not so self assured (and now I find) Now I find, I’ve changed my mind, I’ve opened up the doors…”
The Beatles were absolutely on to something…The help door is a very heavy one to open, but once it is cracked open the love and support of those on the other side floods through.
In many of us the inability to ask for help sounds a lot like, “I got this!”, “No one would be able to do this!”, “I’m not good enough!”, “I’m strong enough to do this alone”…
All of these thoughts are full of self-criticism and judgement. When quite frankly, the answer is simple, ask for help. So very simple, yet so very hard. There is a lot of fear around reaching out for help, often times we worry about what others will think of us if we need help. More often than not we believe that the inability to do something on our own reflects poorly on us. What if I told you that the ability to ask for help empowers others to feel capable of asking for help too? It has a ripple effect that can be life changing when we recognize we are not meant to do this thing called life alone.
Aaron’s ability to ask for help is one of my personal favorites. He so freely asks for help when a mountain seems too great to conquer on his own. His pride and ego never seem to get in the way of his willingness to ask for help. Aaron is an extremely independent human, but he does need loving guidance with many luxuries the rest of the world takes for granted. In many instances, he does not have a choice other than to ask for help. He does so freely and willingly, it is absolutely beautiful. The moments when he asks for help with something that seems so “easy”, I am instantly humbled and brought back down to earth. When Aaron asks for help with things I like to call basic needs, I am quickly reminded that in this world there is no room for taking anything for granted. I continue to learn the importance of appreciating the things that I consider to be “easy”. It is something that can seem so complex, however if we practice asking for help with the “easy” things it will make asking for help with the “hard” things that much more attainable.
We all perceive and experience the world in our own unique ways which is incredible but also limiting. It is so critical to break out of the limitations of our minds in order to embrace the ability to ask for help. Asking for help is not a weakness, it is far from it, it is one of the strongest abilities we all possess. We all have access to this ability when we lean into the discomfort and vulnerability that comes along with the recognition that we cannot do something alone. Beyond that, we do not have to do anything alone.
Asking for help with the little things will make asking for help with the big things possible.
So, I encourage you to bravely open that help door and embrace the loving support/guidance waiting for you on the other side.
Seeing the similarities over the differences is the heart’s greatest ability.