Thanksgiving

GRATITUDE.

A feeling so many of us become overfilled with on this special Thanksgiving Day. Gratitude is not just the word we see thrown all over social media, it is the feeling we experience when we’re connected with love.

Today and everyday is Thanksgiving in Aaron’s heart. He does not necessarily express it with words and catchy phrases, he lives in it with every fiber of his beautiful being.

As long as I have known Aaron (my whole life) he has been an extremely picky eater. He sticks to what he likes and that is a cheeseburger (well done with ketchup only) and fries. So, needless to say, he does not indulge in mom’s extraordinary feast every year on the 4th Thursday of November.

However, to feel “a part of”, he will eat a minuscule piece of turkey doused in ketchup. The piece is more often than not the size of his pinky finger nail. He definitely does this with much hesitation while we all sit at the table chanting “Aaron versus food.” He smiles with excitement let’s out his famous “mang” and throws his arms up in celebration (often while pretending to gag).

While his commitment to feeling a part of is ever so inspiring, I am amazed by his ability to be thankful not only on this day but everyday.

He recognizes on a daily basis all that is to be thankful for in his world. His gratitude is not found through material objects he has acquired, rather it is found in the connection he finds in his relationships. For example, his family, during the holiday season he avoids judgment and criticism by embracing love and acceptance.

A family tradition in our household is to go around the table and share what brings us gratitude. Every single year Aaron says the same thing, “the whole entire 6 of us.” Not the food on the table, the new iPad case, nor the new shampoo he was told not to get. He focuses on his family and friends who are near and far. He expresses interest in what others are doing, simply because he cares. He is not asking to make conversation, however he is asking because he genuinely cares to know if everyone is feeling as much love as he is in that moment. The appreciation for those relationships is infectious and certainly has a ripple effect on the rest of us.

Happy Thanksgiving from me to you!

May your bellies be as full of gratitude as they are good food.

Seeing the similarities over the differences is the heart’s greatest ability.

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The Lighthouse

The following post was contributed by Aaron’s Uncle Jim and Aunt Mary… Or as Aaron so lovingly refers to them as “Uncle Jimmaaaay and Aunt Maryaaaaaay”.  Jim and Mary were so kind to share a recent and favorite memory of Aaron. They so beautifully were able to put words to an experience anyone that knows Aaron has encountered. His ability to draw any and every one near. He is a magnet for love.It is with great pleasure I share with you “The Lighthouse”-We are affectionately known by Aaron and his family as Uncle Jimmeee and Aunt Maryeee.  It is endearing to us since no one else in the entire world has these names!  Aaron himself patented this ‘Special Greeting’  ….. now catching on by other family members who want to be ‘in’ !!

A recent memory of Aaron was at the end of May at our son’s wedding.  Kirk, Cath, & Aaron journeyed from Ann Arbor to Door County, WI.  We remembered their arrival at the Friday night “Meet and Greet”  — Big Smiles that illuminated the Boat House venue, fitting right into the crowd of guests that had gathered.

Aaron is everyone’s “LIGHTHOUSE!” So many friends were greeted by Aaron’s friendly smile and “Hi!”  He sat down next to one of our guests —  and they became BF immediately!!

Celebrating the wedding the next day, Aaron looked forward to the various events.  He chose a “Purple shirt and a New tie.”  Kirk, Cath, and Aaron were seated at our table during the Reception.  He loved his favorite meal – CHEESEBURGER & FRIES.

He was loving it — all smiles, happy, and content!When the music started we all watched Aaron out on the dance floor surrounded by many different guests — enjoying the moments, the times, having such fun listening and dancing to the rhythm of the music. So many of the guests were drawn to this Special Young Man — full attention to his surroundings and full of spirit!  Aaron fit into our group, graciously enjoying every moment of the wedding that weekend.

Aaron uses his senses of sight, hearing, smell, tasting, and touching!  He looks beyond the everyday “Big” things to find the simple joy and love which brings everyone closer to each other…..connecting is the key.  Aaron’s smile and spirit is his ability for us to learn and put into practice the simple things in our everyday lives. Because we cannot see ‘spirit’ it is easy to forget about it or assign no value to it.  Soul is the eternal part of a being.  Aaron is a pure Master of his Spirit.

We are Blessed to have Aaron in our extended family.  

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May this piece serve as an inspiration for you to BE The Lighthouse.

A major thank you to Uncle Jim and Aunt Mary for sharing their experience with recognizing the ability over disability. WE are so blessed to have you all in our family.

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