The Courage to be Aaron

HAPPY BIRTHDAY AARON!!!

In just 34 years you have easily changed the lives of each person who has had the privilege of crossing your path. 

Your birthday has always been an emotional day for our family, the most beautiful kind of emotional. Maybe it’s your infectious self love that insists on recognizing the entire month of October as your birthday… or maybe it’s more than that, maybe it’s deeper. 

I have realized something new this year. October 17th almost seems to be a day of reflection, much like New Year’s Day. I find myself pondering, how can I be more like Aaron? I want what that guy has. I want to have the lenses in which you view the world. For 27 years now, I, much like anyone who knows you have been completely in awe of your entire being. However, for the first time it has struck me, we can all be like you. It just requires a little courage. 

The courage to be Aaron, to live a life that is unapologetically true to you. You show up for life whole heartedly and life shows back up for you in return. You have never hidden from your truth, you have always been Aaron. That extra chromosome of yours has sky rocketed you into a way of living that this world needs. I believe with every fiber of my being that at the core of that chromosome is not only infinite love, but the most wild courage known to mankind. 

The dictionary defines courage as, “mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty”. We live in a world that finds comfort in labeling people. Since October 17th 1984, you have shattered expectations, judgement, and misconceptions by being YOU. In my humble opinion, Merriam Webster has it all wrong. The definition provided for courage is inadequate to say the least, it misses the core of what courage is truly all about. You have taught me that courage is the strength we find in the ability to suit up and show up. It is the willingness based on faith to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is the stillness we feel when we are no longer questioning if we are enough – we are enough. You have shown me that courage is not just an action, it is a way of being. 

Happy Happy Birthday Aaron! May your 34th year on this earth be nothing short of pure joy.

I love you.

We celebrate you today and everyday. 

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From us, to you.

TODAY IS AARON’S BIRTHDAY!

Rather than attempt to narrow down a single ability he has taught the world over his lifetime, I have asked the people who know him best to contribute to a special birthday post.

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If a picture is worth a thousand words, how do you measure the emotions behind this picture?

The picture above has always been one of our family’s favorites. Is it humanly possible to look at this picture and not smile? Almost impossible not to catch the infectious joy this picture radiates… I mean seriously look at that precious little smile alongside those eyes full of hope.

Today, Aaron turns 33. This picture always seems to surface every year on October 17. It was taken on his first birthday, October 17, 1985. This year I asked my parents to reflect on what they learned during Aaron’s first year of life and my siblings what they learned over their lifetime. I gave them all about a week to ponder this broad and tough question before I bombarded them over fajitas with, “so…. what’d ya learn?” The response was unanimous.

My mom and dad stated so matter of fact, “celebrate things as they happen and don’t create expectations that are unrealistic.”

How is this related to the above picture? Spoiler, my mom and dad had to place a brick behind Aaron in order for him to sit upright in the picture. Unlike his peers, he was not able to do so on his own. However, they were not going to miss the opportunity to provide the little guy with the opportunity to celebrate all that makes him Aaron. They learned in that first year that life would not always provide Aaron with a brick to prop him up and that is A-OKAY! It was time to begin celebrating all that makes him unique, all that makes him sparkle, and all that makes him able to change the lives of every soul he encounters.

My dad stressed the importance of celebrating all of the victories, big and small “…every milestone was special regardless of what and when it was.” Removing the unrealistic expectations allowed them not to miss the opportunity to witness the beauty that is his life.

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Now let’s bring on the siblings…

First up, the first of us to meet Aaron… Matt!

“… I always remember coming home from college and Aaron being at the airport always so excited to see me and have ‘the whole 6 of us’ together and that it has really made me appreciate how much we love our family and close friends…how we all accept each other and are happy to be in each other’s company…specifically, the first Labor Day I ever came home from college. He was so excited and I was so excited to see him. But then it became every time I came home”

…Amen Mattie, Amen.

Next up, the baby of the family, Mary Kate. The 14 lessons she has learned from Aaron are worth taking note of, that is a promise.

  • always laughs no matter what the situation is
  • ask mindless questions when you feel like in you’re in an uncomfortable situation
  • always do what you want to do
  • the little things in life are what matter… such as going for a car ride around the block listening to Home Alone and getting a coke
  • screaming at the top of our lungs to Free Fallin by Tom Petty can instantly put you in a good mood
  • making funny and weird gestures to each other in public
  • not caring what anyone thinks of you
  • living every moment to the fullest
  • having the worst day ever and a target trip turns the day around
  • shaking your butt in public is always acceptable
  • always answer a FaceTime call from him because you’re guaranteed to smile
  • never make a promise you can’t keep/be held accountable
  • never turn down a late night cruise
  • always say yes to a sleepover even if that means sharing a bed with Aaron and 2 dogs

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Next, my mom’s take on Aaron’s emotional response to “Happy Birthday.”

Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday to You!
Happy Birthday Dearest Aaron!
Happy Birthday to You!

Aaron is so moved by the song “happy birthday.” His eyes well up with tears and he grabs his heart ever so intently. Mom believes this is due the humility Aaron practices in his day to day life. She said, “…the man does not lack self-esteem, that is for sure, but he does not necessarily see how extremely special or his direct impact on the world around him.” She believes that on October 17, specifically in that moment when we all sing to him, he feels it and he feels it deeply.

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Lastly, let’s wrap this up with an open letter from me to dude.

Dear Aaron,

Although I have only known you for 26 years of your life, it feels like I have known you an eternity. God had BIG plans when he placed you on this earth 33 years ago. You light up every room you walk in, not in the cliche way. In the way that truly no words can describe. Being your little sister is my greatest privilege. I cannot begin to comprehend a life that did not include you. Your kindness is something few words can describe, it is limitless and it is available to all. You have taught me that it is our differences that make us unique. It is by truly embracing everyone and everything that we live and grow. Your kindness is something few words can describe, it is limitless and it is available to all. It blows my mind that you believe whole heartedly your entire family has Down Syndrome. You choose not to see the label of Down Syndrome that was placed upon you 33 years ago as a disability. You embrace all of the infinite abilities jam-packed into that extra chromosome. It is ever so clear that you see it as a uniting factor that has the ability to change this world… and I am with you buddy! Our family would never have been the same without you. This world would never have been the same without you. You are a gift beyond measure. Through you I see Love has no expiration tag, no judgement, you have taught me that love is the purest form of joy. I thank you, from the most sincere part of my heart for continually challenging my limiting beliefs, because of you my world is much greater. Because of you my heart knows love unlike any other.

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Love, Andie

If you made it to this point… thank you! Thank you for joining us on this journey of reflection on why our lives are infinitely better because of October 17, 1984.

Aaron, We Love You.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY AARON!!!

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