Smile

Social media can be a powerful tool. Social media can serve as a platform to share your life with the hopes of inspiring others. I was able to connect with this week’s writer, Kayla, after being touched and inspired by her posts. I selected the genius “message” tab and asked Kayla if she’d be willing to share about her son on the blog. She graciously said yes. The privilege of connecting with those who have or love someone with extra abilities continues to humble me to my core. Further proof that Through connection we can overcome the label of disability and unleash our true abilities.

Meet Jagger:

Jagger is a uniquely wonderful human being to whom I have the honor of calling my son. His ability to make you smile even when you’re having a bad day is something very special and how even though hitting milestones doesn’t come easy, he doesn’t stop trying to figure out how to do things.

He has taught our family the ability to smile even when times get tough, that there is so much beauty in the unexpected. And to be patient, things will come with time and effort.

If there is one thing people could learn from my son is, when facing adversity, never give up, and just keep smiling because things will get better!

Thank you Kayla!

You can keep up with their journey by following @kayladine on Instagram!

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What Counts

This week’s story is brought to you by Aaron’s Aunt Red, also known as “Red”.

Please enjoy the story:

Sometimes I think the more the heart in my chest fights and pushes against my weaknesses or blah days, the closer I am to my spiritual “what counts”  self.  I said SOMETIMES.

But glimmers of “what counts” come from my nephew Aaron at ALL TIMES. I said ALL TIMES.I know this because I am an expert! An expert at being Aunt Red hanging out with Nephew Aaron! Aaron is a glimmer, a shine, a twinkle, a light. However you put it, he is  “what counts.”

Recently, he reminded me of this:

One night, while loading 2 days worth of dirty dishes into my worn out dishwasher that makes noise on the sanitize cycle, I thought about people who I lost touch with, and tried to reconnect with …and no reply for one reason or another. Life happens but I am very popular with myself —shouldn’t everyone answer?

I felt sorry for myself. It’s genetic. I’m Irish. I was taking in my 5-minute lament. I should have jumped into that noisy dishwasher for a mental wash— and sanitize on the ‘Quit feeling sorry for yourself’ cycle.

The next day at work, a call came in on my cell that I wanted to take but couldn’t. I listened to the message from Aaron ona break: “Siiiissssay! (Pause) Siiiiiisssay! IT’S AARON! Hi. Cheese fart. How’s your day? It’s cold here. (Pause). I love you. Bye.” The sting of disconnect was gone. And we have a joke as old as the ages (me) about cheese farts.

Aaron’s message was a glimmer of “what counts” from his voice of strength, love and determination. We caught up on FaceTime soon after. My nephew Aaron’s family tells me he checks in with everyone. I’m happy to be on his list! But the timing of when he checked in with me that day was too coincidental not to believe it went from my sappy selfie lament to his happy ears. Aaron’s mother, my sister (sssiiiissaay), says, “I don’t believe in winki dinks” – it’s more than a coincidence. Aaron’s message was more than a coincidence. It was meant to be.

I believe in  “what counts.” Aaron is ALWAYS  “what counts” in this world.  Wherever you’re at, he’ll find you and pull you up or out! Aaron knows how to connect and keep all connected. What a gift! His personality, instincts, love and humor are a joy to be around!

Aaron is a seer of “what counts!”

You’ll see this when you’re around him!

By: Aunt Red

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The Courage to be Aaron

HAPPY BIRTHDAY AARON!!!

In just 34 years you have easily changed the lives of each person who has had the privilege of crossing your path. 

Your birthday has always been an emotional day for our family, the most beautiful kind of emotional. Maybe it’s your infectious self love that insists on recognizing the entire month of October as your birthday… or maybe it’s more than that, maybe it’s deeper. 

I have realized something new this year. October 17th almost seems to be a day of reflection, much like New Year’s Day. I find myself pondering, how can I be more like Aaron? I want what that guy has. I want to have the lenses in which you view the world. For 27 years now, I, much like anyone who knows you have been completely in awe of your entire being. However, for the first time it has struck me, we can all be like you. It just requires a little courage. 

The courage to be Aaron, to live a life that is unapologetically true to you. You show up for life whole heartedly and life shows back up for you in return. You have never hidden from your truth, you have always been Aaron. That extra chromosome of yours has sky rocketed you into a way of living that this world needs. I believe with every fiber of my being that at the core of that chromosome is not only infinite love, but the most wild courage known to mankind. 

The dictionary defines courage as, “mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty”. We live in a world that finds comfort in labeling people. Since October 17th 1984, you have shattered expectations, judgement, and misconceptions by being YOU. In my humble opinion, Merriam Webster has it all wrong. The definition provided for courage is inadequate to say the least, it misses the core of what courage is truly all about. You have taught me that courage is the strength we find in the ability to suit up and show up. It is the willingness based on faith to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is the stillness we feel when we are no longer questioning if we are enough – we are enough. You have shown me that courage is not just an action, it is a way of being. 

Happy Happy Birthday Aaron! May your 34th year on this earth be nothing short of pure joy.

I love you.

We celebrate you today and everyday. 

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The Slumber Party

This week’s story comes from Aaron’s youngest sibling, his sister, Mary Kate! These two have the most special tradition and I am thrilled that she was open to sharing about it here on The Heart Ability! ENJOY!

In many households the word kidnapped is frightening. In the Trofholz house it’s a word that brings excitement and joy. I’m not sure who came up with the phrase, “Aaron’s getting kidnapped” but it stuck. Whenever Aaron is coming to have a sleepover with one of his siblings we say that we’re going to kidnap him from Mom and Dads house.

Sleepovers are always fun, but for Aaron a sleepover is more than fun. Since Aaron doesn’t drive, I think the thought of him being able to leave home for a night is just beyond words for him.

I try to kidnap Aaron as much as I can. He always looks forward to coming to my apartment, as he counts down for the next kidnapping. Aaron and I pick a day then I drive up to my parents to take him. He always has his little grey “pack pack” packed and ready to go. His packing consists of 20 DVDs (although we only watch two- Ted and I,Tonya), cool patches, heating pad, and Coca Cola.

When I pull in to our driveway I see Aaron standing in the front window waiting to come out to my car. The moment he gets in my car he puts in either his Queen CD or Home Alone Soundtrack. We listen to the songs over and over during the drive back to the city. Sometimes the drive takes a hour and a half. So yes, that means we listen to Good Old Fashion Lover boy 5+ times!! We never seem to listen to the music at a normal volume. It’s always full blast and we sing our little hearts out and dance the whole way home.

Once Aaron is at my apartment he barges right through the door and makes himself at home. So much so that he calls my room “our room”. This brings so much joy to my heart because he feels so comfortable. Like clockwork, Aaron places all his DVDs on my coffee table and then plops down on the couch.

No matter how much fun we have, Aaron always asks, “When are you kidnapping me again?!” We always have to plan our next date before he leaves so he has something to look forward to.

When I drive Aaron back home I always get emotional saying goodbye to him. Although I’m only 25 miles away from him I ALWAYS miss him. These “kidnappings” really prove to me that it’s the little things in life. Allowing Aaron to “get away” from Mom and Dad for one night makes him feel empowered and independent.

– – Mary Kate Trofholz

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